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Language matters and often more than we think.听 Words paint a picture, they start a relationship, they act as connections, and they are remembered.听 Words are not in themselves physical, but they can invoke reactions that can have a physical effect.听 Words can make us feel happy, sad, angry and so many more emotions.听

Microaggressions are usually subtle forms of discrimination, but still contribute to women feeling unvalued and unwelcome in their workplace. Words can inflict a deep feeling of injustice which can feel like a physical blow; as the recipient of microaggressions you feel the hurt emotionally and physically, as the speaker you may not even be aware of what you have said.听

The 萝莉视频 poster highlights just a few common sayings which undermine women in our workplaces. This blog explains the assumptions these are based on, and why they can cause harm.

Why focus on women?

We know from our previous work that gender discrimination is an issue in the veterinary profession, especially for women:

• The 萝莉视频 report on discrimination in the veterinary profession revealed sex discrimination to be the most common type reported
• Our motivation, satisfaction, and retention report showed that female vets experience significantly more overt gender discrimination than male vets, and less frequently experience being treated in a positive manner by their colleagues
• Our study on gender discrimination in the veterinary profession demonstrated that there are differences in how some managers perceive, treat, and pay male and female vets, which negatively affected women
• found that for 64% of women microaggressions are a workplace reality

Assumptions of traditional gender roles

Women often face questions about their family plans, including marriage and having children. Comments such as 鈥淒id you never want Children?鈥� and 鈥淚t鈥檚 impressive that you鈥檝e had kids and a career鈥� make assumptions based on traditional gender roles.

The idea that women should aspire to be married and have children is outdated, as is the notion that choosing to do so should affect their career. Comments like these simply reinforce the negative stereotype that having a family is a woman鈥檚 primary purpose.

Traditional views of how women should act also manifest themselves as microaggressions. For example, 鈥�She鈥檚 feisty鈥� and 鈥淭hat鈥檚 not very ladylike鈥� infer that assertiveness in women is undesirable and that women should be submissive. Personality should not be related to gender.

Sexual objectification

In general, people comment more on girls鈥� clothing and appearance than that of boys. Women often receive comments about their appearance, eg 鈥淵ou鈥檙e too pretty to worry about that鈥� or 鈥淲hy don鈥檛 you go the meeting, a pretty face might persuade them鈥�. This suggests that the most important thing about a woman is the way that she looks, rather than her skills or expertise.

Assumptions of inferiority

Some comments suggest that women are physically or intellectually incompetent, particularly in comparison to men. Examples on the poster include 鈥淐an I speak to someone more senior?鈥� and 鈥淲e need someone who is strong鈥�.

These suggest that women couldn鈥檛 possibly occupy high status positions, reinforcing the notion that men are superior.

What can I say?

Think about the words you say before you say them 鈥� is that comment you are about to say something you鈥檇 say to anyone, regardless of whether they identify as male, female or other? If you鈥檇 change it for a different gender, then perhaps rethink it.

Does that person鈥檚 gender (or other protected characteristic) actually have any impact on the work they are doing in that moment, or in the conversation you are having? If it does, is your comment respectful or presumptuous?听

Accepting we have got something wrong is hard, particularly if we didn鈥檛 intend any negativity.听 But accepting we got something wrong and learning is nowhere near as hard as constantly feeling rundown by words that harm. If somebody confronts something that you have said, thank them and, if appropriate, learn from them and educate yourself; now you have an opportunity to do better, speak better and be kinder and surely that is what we all want.听 We all get things wrong, but we can also all learn how to get it right.听 Collectively we need to be better and confront things we hear that we know are wrong.

More information

The Royal College of Surgeons most recent was dedicated to celebrating the 30 years of the Women in Surgery network.听 It contains some insightful articles and is free to download. One sentence really stuck out for me: The standard we walk past is the standard we accept and many of us hear and see behaviours every day which we know to be unacceptable. Microaggressions perpetuate discrimination irrespective of their intention, let鈥檚 not walk past anymore.

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This blog is part of the 萝莉视频 #BigConversation on microaggressions. You can download posters to help start the conversation in your workplace, or read our blogs looking at microaggressions related to:

• Race
• Mental health
• Sexuality
• Disability and chronic illness